Category Archives: Home and Garden



I am feeling a little distracted lately. This is what our backyard/my view from my desk looked like BEFORE it rained for 12 hours straight. We are in a holding pattern while we wait for the plumber to replace a gas line. Then, I have been told, it will move along “quickly”. We will see. ūüôā

Meanwhile, I found an awesome App to help me quell my urge to plant. It is called iScape and it takes this


to this.


Inheritance as Decor

So, I have been writing a lot lately, nothing which really fits the scope of this blog. ¬†Therefore you will notice two things. ¬†My posts are infrequent and those that I do post are long. ¬†Really long. ¬†Sorry about that. ¬†When I am not writing, I have been settling in to our new home and trying to use a lot of inherited items along the way. ¬†This is the first of hopefully many posts that describe how I am using things passed down from family to turn my house into a home. ¬†Some are pretty comical and may not work, but I just want you to know there were good intentions here. ¬†ūüôā

New Start in an Old House

Well, it is official.¬† The chicken has flown the coop and this blog is now headquartered in a new location.¬† Put simply, we moved.¬† Not far…..9 blocks to be exact, but with the time and energy involved, you would have we moved across the globe.¬† I don‚Äôt know where all of this stuff came from, but it darn near killed me.¬† Now, I am spending most of my days unpacking boxes, figuring out what light switch goes to which light and swimming in our new little oasis.

I have mentioned before that we live in an old house.  Old is relative, but here in Oklahoma, old is around 100 years old and our new place is just a few years short of its centennial.  I have lived in historic homes my entire life, but I have learned that these homes are not for everyone.  My advice, if you are interested in moving to an old home, is learn to treat your home like a close friend or relative.  This means you need to learn to take the good with the bad.

You Wait and See

You Wait and See: ¬†A Story with “Feminist Implications”

I vaguely remember my elementary school librarian reading us a book and discussing the ‚Äúfeminist implications‚ÄĚ surrounding the story.¬† I had no idea what he was talking about but I absolutely loved the story.¬† The next time I was able to buy a book for our house, I picked the story of the five Easter Bunnies.¬† I read it over and over and never really thought about the ‚Äúfeminist implications‚ÄĚ again.¬† I just imagined wearing those gold shoes and taking the special egg to the sick boy far away.¬† I am not sure what happened to that book.

Then, 20 years later, I discovered the book while I was looking for the perfect Easter Book for Big Guy.  The cover looked familiar and I sat down at the bookstore to refresh my memory.  There they were, on almost every page, feminist implications.  The importance of mothering and the kindness and wisdom that often only mothers of the most precocious children posses.  The story about teaching your children to be self-sufficient, work as a team, be kind to one another.  The story about beating the odds, and breaking through the stereotypes that the biggest and strongest are always the best.  It focuses on patience and courage and most of all compassion.

So, today, I was tutoring two little girls at the boy‚Äôs.¬† Two girls that struggled with reading and one hearing, as well.¬† Two girls who had just recently moved to the area from different edges of the state….one because her mom needed a better paying job.¬† I was ecstatic when one of the girls handed me the book with the familiar cover.¬† And, I had to.¬† I had to say at the end, this is a really old book, written a long time ago when women were not permitted to do really important jobs.¬† It has a lot of ‚Äúfeminist implications‚ÄĚ.¬† They looked at me with the same blank stare I remember giving my librarian, but it is a seed.¬† Who knows where it will go.

This was so me when I was a child….really through college.

This was me when I re-discovered this book through now.  (I know I only have two, but most days it feels like twenty-one.)

I can only hope that when I have two grown boys I still have the kindness and wisdom and most of all courage for this phase of life.

The boys and I read this book every Easter and some times during other parts of the year.  I think it is important that they hear these stories too.  Stories that will help shape their views of their wives, their daughters and hopefully their mother.

Have you read The Country Bunny and the Little Gold Shoes, by Du Bose Heyward?

Hey Good Lookin’ — 60 is the new 30

How do you sum up 60 years into one party? ¬† It was a challenge that my sister in law and I decided to take on for our mother in law. ¬†All of my parents turn (or would have turned) 60 this year….Mom would have celebrated last November, but close enough…so appropriate celebrations have been on my mind. ¬†##spoiler alert….if you know my father personally pretend you did not read this.